Friday, August 20, 2010

A Post Inspired By A Dear Friend


I just got home from having dinner with one of my oldest and dearest friends. We met when we were just a couple of single chicks, with our whole lives ahead of us.

We worked together and hung out together, shared secrets and had more laughs than I could possibly count.

Well we're not such young chicks anymore and we are married and raising our families. Life has gotten busy and we see each other about once a year. That we have got to change.

Anyway, while at dinner tonight I was asked a question by my friend. She asked how I handle it all. How do I manage with all the kids and Miss Em and her needs. She said everything looks so put together on the blog.

HMMMMM, well ,it's not all put together, that was my answer. Things are crazy and disorganized.

The one thing I didn't want my blog to be was something I'm not. I wanted to keep it real.

Everyday is not a picnic, my kids are not like the kids in the Sound of Music. I tried ... trust me.

The kids fight like there's no tomorrow. Then tomorrow comes and they get to continue! LOL
I'm not singing through the house as I dust with a feather duster. Some days I need a bulldozer to clear a path.

At any given moment you can find someone crying about something, someone arguing about something. If you don't watch where you're walking something will grab you. Most likely a train. There are baby dolls and stuffed bears everywhere.

My need for a clean organized house is becoming something I am giving up on.

Cereal has been served for supper.

Andrew thinks I'm mean. Actually the meanest mother ever..

And my stress level has caused strange heart palpitations.

BUT

I didn't nickname our family Ringling Brothers for nothing!

It is a circus at times. Some days I just want to sit and have a good cry. Sometimes it helps.

BUT

Most days are good. When I see Em do something new. Or the kids just get along. When we laugh so hard we cry. When I look at them sleeping. When my oldest still kisses me goodnight. When Bella tells me I'm pretty.

It's all worth it.

The good the bad and the ugly all makes up my family, which is beautiful because they're mine.

SO

All those happy smiling faces that I post are truly that, just not everyday...

Except Miss Em, she pretty much is that happy every day. We could all take a few pointers from her. Myself included.





16 comments:

Adrienne said...

Love this post. Thanks for sharing!

Lacey said...

So true! I have been having major heart palpitations. Freaks me out! My doctor thinks its stress and is not worried. I also was told that coffee will do that. And I do have to have my coffee every morning. Right now its headaches, sheesh, is that one normal?

LizBeth said...

There are days I have to ask myself, If I knew everything was going to blow apart tomorrow and all the worst was about to happen, what would really matter today?

Tina said...

Yes we could learn a think or two from Miss Em or Miss Saira for that matter, she smiles even when she's not feeling her best, she wakes up in the morning and the first thing you see is her grinning from ear to ear. I think we should all smile and laugh more it's really a great medicine. But yes the stress of everyday creeps in on us even when we don't want it to. we just have to learn to have a good balance between the two, no perhaps the balance should tilt slightly more towards smiling appreciating and not stressing the small stuff so much. But one things for sure our little ones can't help but make us smile more...

Tina said...

p.s. what a gorgeous picture of Emmie, see how she has the power of making us smile!!!

Lynn said...

Steph, Im so happy that we had an opportunity to get together. You are an amazing Mom and a wonderful friend... I love ya....

Rochelle said...

I think this post could be on every mother's blog (well certainly mine).
This is one reason we love you guys so much because yes life is crazy at times? BUT you always focus on the positive!
Hugs (worried about the heart palpitations though, have you had them checked out?)
Glad you had a great night out with a good friend.

my family said...

Were you talking about my house,lol love your post

The VW's said...

Yep! Our lives are not always as they appear to be! I pretty sure that's the case for most people. Thanks for your honesty and for helping to ease the guilt of this Momma....who IS the meanest Mom EVER! :) Love and Hugs!!!

Patti said...

So true, what a great post. I had a "coming out day" on my family blog where I posted photos of the things in my house I don't ever post photos of..a dirty shower, mildewy crockpot. It was fun and helped my friends to see we're normal...we just don't air our dirty laundry every day in blogland:) Thanks for sharing and being honest. Miss Em always gives me something to smile about too!

Missy said...

For a second there I thought you were talking about me...but then I remembered I couldn't join my two dearest buds the world could ever give a girl...boo hoo... Now get back to making the kids dresses and knickers out of the drapes, climb up a mountain and sing your lungs out like you do and always, always remember you DO have it all together-"scattered pieces" or not-and that's why we love you to pieces...XO

Runningmama said...

Love this post...and how real you always are!

Bulldogma said...

Bravo for keeping it real, my fellow nuthouse administrator!!

Denise said...

I am so glad to hear that you are not perfect either!! :)

Lori said...

Ha! I had a friend the other day make almost the exact comment to me. And - I replied almost exactly the same way =)
I was there in person, though -- you and your family seemed pretty pulled-together in my opinion =) Which - BTW, I have a thank you note sitting here on my desk for over a week now, and I still haven't got it mailed. I think that is a testament to my chaotic life =)

Kelly said...

It's so nice to know that I am not alone=) I can't help but laugh when someone says that "I look like I have it together". Because after being in my presence for more than 10 minutes, they are offering me a drink!

As chaotic as life may be, I wouldn't change it for anything! Thanks for sharing this!!